Greetings,
Over the years I have worked with alot of people who have rage operating in their life. It is a destructive force that send them far away from family, friends and God. It isolates people and the whole world is at fault and their enemy. It goes far beyond that too. It justifies their behavior and literally BLINDS THEIR CONSCIENCE.
This is why God speaks about not letting the sun go down on your anger without addressing it. We can still be mad however we have to bring it out into the light before sundown. Literally.
It Blinds the conscience (RAGE) because the pain is so intense it is like a fire than can not be put out.
Satan depends on the anger being fanned into this so he can get a foothold and takeover.
Trauma to a person is designed by Satan to get the foothold needed to gain entrance to the person's hurt to fester the wound to the point of boiling RAGE to take over the persons being.
It can manifest into many things however the goal is to keep the fear and hurt going so the person's soul becomes unreachable by family, friends and most importantly GOD. These people are so hard to reach because they are so blinded by the TRAUMA and HURT. Often these people were exploited by someone else, anyone else, in the form of predatory behavior to gain something for the predators themselves. And of course these people who are exploited were done while they themselves were so VULNERABLE.
A PREDATOR plunders and destroys. They knowingly set out to do this. They set out intentionally to plunder and destroy.
This if not healed and delivered becomes a generational curse. These victims often become
not believed and feel helpless. They ARE experiencing real FEAR from what has transpired in they lives.
Because the Anger and Co-dependency is so strong it is hard to reach their inner man to help them release all that has been attached wrongly to their soul.
Our identity is not to be based on these things. The foundation should be Love and Freedom.
Not ANGER, RAGE AND FEAR.
We operate out of the things that were attached to our souls. Good things are right foundations, Bad things wrong foundations.
Generationally these get passed down if not delivered and healed.
These demonic forces will suck the life out of you (co-dependency). You will be exhausted trying to live up to a false identity.
Everything in your life will go wrong.
Unexplained illness, unexplained accidents, deep depression which will cause you to push everyone away.
The demons attached through these traumas ( which look for an opening in your person or a crack in your wholeness to gain a foot hold) will ALWAYS KEEP YOU LOOKING FOR THE NEGATIVE AND WHAT IS WRONG AND ALWAYS USE FEAR TO DRIVE THEIR POINT HOME.
So ask God today to deliver you and heal you so you can live free and whole.
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Thursday, February 25, 2016
Understanding Narcissism by Illimitable Men. GOOD DESCRIPTIVE ARTICLE ALTHOUGH NOT THE RESOLUTION OF THE PROBLEM
 "The sadistic narcissist perceives himself as Godlike, ruthless and devoid of scruples, capricious and unfathomable, emotionless and non-sexual, omniscient, omnipotent and omni-present, a plague, a devastation, an inescapable verdict." - Sam Vaknin
Contents:
1.) Introduction - Narcissistic Personality Disorder 2.) Rational Narcissism aka Achievement-Based Narcissism 3.) The Birth of the Narcopath 4.) Dealing With A Narcopath 5.) In Closing / Relevant Reading
1.) Introduction - Narcissistic Personality Disorder:
All people with narcissistic personality disorder are narcissists, but not all narcissists
have a personality disorder. A dose of narcissism is good, for it improves one's effectiveness by amplifying their self-love, confidence and boldness. However, it seems to be a common misconception that the promotion of narcissism is tantamount to the promotion of narcissistic personality disorder. This is false, and nought but an ignorant layman's understanding of narcissism fallaciously manifesting as a false equivalence.
Narcissistic personality disorder is a coping mechanism developed in childhood to deal with neglect, rejection or cruelty (eg: bullying) from one's parents. Narcissistic personality disorder is superlative to the nth degree, the most extreme version of narcissism, rather than the healthy self-assured confidence that comes as a by-product of talent and achievement.
Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a childhood developmental disorder that is ingrained into the child by the inability of a parent to reward their child's behaviours and accomplishments. Everything the child does is scrutinised and rejected, the child is constantly berated and denied their basic need for love.
The child's accomplishments are typically deemed insufficient, for example if the child achieves a perfect score or comes first place, say in a race or on a school paper, the result is expected rather than rewarded. In a narcopath's childhood, achievement was met by indifference and anything other than exceptionalism was met by emotional abuse. The excellence is expected, but the parental approval and joy quintessential to such achievements is absent.
This is further exacerbated when the narcopath has a sibling who is incessantly rewarded whilst they are incessantly punished, this is narcopathy on the part of the parent exercising this behaviour and is a narcissistic strategy known as triangulation. What sets the NPD apart from the narcissist is that the rejection caused by the parent at a young age leaves them incapable of forming pair-bonds, this inability to pair-bond from there on becomes an empathy disorder dressed up in ego.
2.) Rational Narcissism aka Achievement-Based Narcissism:
Achievement-based narcissism is distinct from narcissistic personality disorder in much the way stoicism is distinct from psychopathy. Although a stoic and a psychopath may both seem cold, one can pair bond and the other cannot. Likewise, despite the NPD and narcissist both demonstrating much ego, one can pair bond and the other cannot.
Successful people with the self-esteem that comes with it, are to one degree or another, narcissistic. And it is precisely this which distinguishes them from NPDs, they are narcissistic by degree - not in totality. If one attained a ridiculous amount of success, it is feasible they could become as narcissistic as the NPD - but this is uncommon and thus unrepresentative of achievement-based narcissism.
Unlike the NPD, your typical narcissist does not deify themselves as infallible, indubitable or indissoluble, but rather, they see themselves as above average, superior. And if they earn more than most people, are smarter than most people, and are in better health than most people, is this not true? Narcissism and elitism go hand in hand, for narcissism is a natural byproduct of success.
Much unlike the NPD, the successful are narcissistic because they have worked hard, and by the trial of their mettle they have achieved. NPDs are delusional individuals who deified themselves to cope with the onslaught of emotional abuse they received from their parents in childhood. Already now you should be beginning to understand the different shades of narcissism; you have the tangibly successful who are narcissistic by recognition of their superiority, and the delusionally damaged who have lived in a self-inculcated fantasy since youth.
Achievement-based narcissism is healthy and comes from a positive place, whilst narcissistic personality disorder is a coping mechanism born from a negative place. Unlike the achievement-based narcissist, the NPD is oft sadistic. The power that comes from sadistic exploitation is quick and dirty junk food for the insatiable vacuum that represents the NPD's horrible childhood. Where the child developed NPD out of powerlessness, their adult form takes this to the opposite extent, intent on domination and the feeling of omnipotence that come from having total control over another.
People like to use "narcissist" as an insult, but know this - not all narcissism is equal. Some is healthy, born of superior performance and achievement, the other is dysfunctional, born of a terrible childhood. To combine these distinctions under one umbrella would be to disingenuously misrepresent the nature of narcissism, and anybody interested in narcissism would as such do well to ingrain this distinction into their cranium.
3.) The Birth of The Narcopath:
The NPD constructs a false sense of self to counteract the heartbreaking treatment they received from their parent. In truth the NPD is a victim, but a dangerous one at that. It is unwise to show the NPD the pity and sympathy customarily doted to a victim, for the NPD will see this as weakness and exploit it duly.
The vacuum left by unbetrothed love in the NPD's formative years is insatiable and unfillable. NPDs tend to be the offspring of other NPDs, or individuals with affective empathy disorders (of which there is a numerous and colourful range of diagnoses). Any love or sympathy the NPD receives as an adult serves merely as a form of ego validation, it is not sentimentally received or appreciated in the way the empath intended.
An NPD is a narcopath (a comorbid psychopathic grandiose narcissist), narcopaths do not feel empathy. A narcissist on the other hand merely has an elevated sense of self, a lack of humility if you will, but this alone does not signify an inability to sympathise.
I refer to NPDs as narcopaths, for the absence of empathy customary to the NPD is tantamount to psychopathy, albeit, an egotistical variation on the phenomenon.
The narcopath cannot love for they bare no sentimental appreciation for vulnerability, perceiving only weakness in that which they cannot emote. Like a destructive child they cannot enjoy the flutter of a butterfly, but rather, the butterfly drawing people's attention would anger them, compelling them to crush it.
And yet if you were to tell the narcopath they could not love, you would be met by nothing but narcissistic injury. Indignance, histrionics, victim playing, gaslighting, a grand display of anger where they highlight their best points whilst contrasting them with your worst. The narcopath is not above bringing out their highlight reel and your skeleton closet, making comparisons and trying to deceive you into believing this is an accurate rendition of reality.
The narcopath would deny their inability to love, because to tell a narcopath they are incapable of something is to harm the very pride they subsist on. Narcopaths are broken people due to the mental abuse inflicted on them by their parent(s), yet at the same time they are dangerous people - I will repeat myself for clarity's sake: narcopaths do not sentimentally appreciate sympathy, they desire it only so they can use it as a way to malignantly exploit the sucker naive enough to care.
4.) Dealing With A Narcopath:
Narcopaths are very unemotional and unconcerned with others, their emotion emotional capacity is reserved solely for solipsistic matters. For example, they do not feel concern for others - but rather they become bothered if someone useful to them is unavailable. To be concerned would to emotionally care for the missing person, to be bothered is to be annoyed by the absence of a person - this is a subtle but distinct variation. Narcopaths are emotional people, but only when it comes to themselves.
Typically the narcopath is angry, or feeding their narcissistic supply by ridiculing people. Narcopaths can be pretty funny people, and this makes sense in so much as humour is based upon the ridicule and degradation of an out-group in order to amuse an audience. You will see here on a non-sexual level that this penchant for schadenfreude is a form of soft-sadism (and is typically, likewise mirrored in the bedroom).
Ridicule makes the narcopath feel superior to the out-group, whilst feeding them the validation of the in-group, further bolstering feelings of superiority. Because the narcopath is conflict-seeking rather than conflict averse, they are destructive personalities that feed on the chaos and misery of others, again a manifestation of their latent sadism.
Realise when dealing with a narcopath that everything goes through a filter of ego - this is both the narcopath's greatest strength and weakness - a double-edged sword if you will. The narcopath is psychologically high in attack, but low in defence. Unlike a stoic who is immovable, the narcopath is easily moved - although they will typically attempt to shut you down before you can do to much damage.
If you were to observe one's battlefield with a narcopath, you will see their strategy is to achieve a quick victory by completely overwhelming their adversary. By merit of their high attack they often manage this, although it should be noted this strategy is as much as a form of defence it is an attack, for the narcopath has low defence. If you mirror the narcopath's strategy by overwhelming them, they will lose all sense of sanity and crumble very quickly.
Unlike psychopaths, narcopaths excel at destroying but are inept at enduring, such is their achille's heel, their susceptibility to narcissistic injury. Narcopaths do not respond to reason once the ego fires up, although they have no qualms exploiting yours.
The best way to deal with a narcopath in their manic phase is to insult and undermine them, amplify their thirst for conflict, question their credibility, mock them and generally degrade their very essence. Although this sounds extreme, literally nothing else will allow you to permeate their childish stubbornness.
To get through to them and you must resort to narcissistically injuring them. They won't like you for this, but they probably don't really like you anyway. And although they may not like you for this, they will respect it, and perversely what a narcopath can respect, he can like. If you cannot offend a narcopath, he cannot respect you. This is extreme yet necessary, these individuals at their core are bullies, and the only way to win the respect of a bully is to degrade them.
5.) In Closing / Relevant Reading:
Curious to see how narcissistic you are? You can take this test to get a rough idea. A high narcissism score on this test is not indicative of narcopathy, merely narcissism, but a high narcissism score combined with a high psychopathy score is. This test does not seek to measure sadism, but if you get a high psychopathy and narcissism score, I can infer with 99% confidence you are likewise sadistic.
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Relevant Books:
Malignant Self-Love: Narcissism Revisited
The Science of Evil: On Empathy and the Origins of Cruelty |
Friday, November 20, 2015
DIVINE UPGRADES BY LANA VAWSER
A SHIFT IS HAPPENING INTO GREATER DIVINE UPGRADES
During worship I had a vision and saw many of the people of God in "unfamiliar" in the sense of wondering what the Lord is doing, and for some they have felt like they have been "wandering", their sense of direction has been shaken.
For others, they were stepping into areas of breakthrough that were bigger than they had imagined and fear and intimidation has been screaming at them on every side.
I saw Jesus calling His people to a "threshold" and in order to move cross the threshold they had to take His hand and step off the edge and the "next step" wasn't highlighted yet. An even deeper level of trust was the "currency" to crossing over this new threshold.
As the people of God took His hand in faith trusting in His GOODNESS and His faithfulness, and stepped out, an SHIFT was instantly activated. A shift into greater divine upgrades. Not only were dreams being upgraded, promises of God added to with greater increase, but explosive breakthrough of divine upgrades in little areas of their lives. Upgrades happening in the natural all around them as a prophetic symbol of what was happening in the spirit. As I wondered about this divine upgrade, I was suddenly filled with the sense of the people of God taking a greater step further into their inheritance.
"He's marked out our inheritance ahead of time, putting us in the front of the line, honouring those He loves!" – Psalm 47:4 (The Passion Translation)
As the people of God were stepping into greater levels of upgrade, I saw Jesus standing before them and I heard Him say "ENJOY AND DEPLOY" and a SUDDEN NEW positioning of the people of God was taken place. They were being DEPLOYED for action. When I asked Jesus what the action was, He looked at me with a great smile and beaming joy and He spoke.. "LOVE IN ACTION".
The Lord began to show me that these divine upgrades being released across the body of Christ as the people of God move forward in faith and deep trust in Him, they are being given "more" and the Lord wants His people to ENJOY that what He is releasing to them to have JOY in what their good Papa is releasing over their lives, but to also recognise that these upgrades are coming with strategic positioning to RELEASE HIS LOVE IN ACTION through the upgrades. I began seeing the people of God "handing things out" in the natural and the spirit and radical the love of God was beginning to spread into towns, cities, nations and the world in a radical way.
"Through this greater HAND OUT from HEAVEN I am REACHING MY HAND FURTHER OUT to the world.."
Keep walking with Him, for the Lord is moving His people into greater upgrades. He is reaching His hand further out into your life bringing increase and upgrade, and THROUGH YOU, He is reaching His hand FURTHER OUT to release the revelation of His love to those around you and the world.
You are taking a strategic place right now! Trust Him! It may not "look" how you expected but there is a divine upgrade before you. For not only will enjoy a deeper revelation of seeing His goodness in the land of the living (Psalm 27:13) but that this is also BIGGER than you. He is REACHING OUT THROUGH YOU to release His love in new and more powerful ways than you have seen before.
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Monday, November 16, 2015
Kinsman Redeemer
This week I had a dream and I heard the words "I am coming as the Kinsman Redeemer". As I was starting to wake up I heard Him speak again and He said that He is moving through the body of Christ in the anointing of the Kinsman Redeemer.
As I have been sitting with the Lord and pondering this dream, the biblical story of Boaz and Ruth was being quickened to my spirit and I felt to look up the name Boaz. (In the story we see Boaz restoring back to Ruth and Naomi everything that had been taken. When talking with a friend of mine, she stated it perfectly "Boaz became the bringer of upgraded promise and full restoration and he did it through love. He is redeeming with the greatest of love...kisses from a GOOD God." - Jodie Hughes)
BOAZ: "Quickness" (Strong's Hebrew: 1162)
BOAZ: "Swift; in strength" (Google.com)
This confirmed the 'sense' in my dream, for when He spoke and said "I AM COMING as the Kinsman Redeemer", there was an urgency on His words, that He was coming swiftly, that He was coming quickly, and He was coming in great strength.
The sense in my dream was that the Lord was coming QUICKLY to RESTORE. Not only was He going to restore what the enemy had plundered, destroyed and taken, but He was also coming to restore inheritances. There was a great emphasis on "loss", that He was coming to restore the "losses". Where there has been grief, pain, disappointment, and a stealing, the Lord was coming to restore it with His goodness. As Boaz moved in love, he restored to Ruth and Naomi honour and their inheritance.
The Lord is coming quickly to you to restore you. He is coming in 'quickness' as the Kinsman Redeemer and you are going to OVERFLOW WITH JOY!!!!
"The threshing floors will be full of grain, And the vats will overflow with the new wine and oil. " - Joel 2:24
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